It’s impossible to live on earth as a human and not know rejection in some form. Even Jesus, who was a perfect man was rejected by many of those He came to save. Rejection hurts, sometimes deeply. The psychology of rejection teaches us that being valued and belonging are core to our mental wellbeing; that rejection isn’t just “hurt feelings” but engages deep motivational, emotional, and cognitive systems. Rejection can kill our drive, upset our emotions, and even contribute to negative, unhelpful, or dysfunctional thinking. By learning about rejection and how to handle it, sometimes through our own painful experience, we can better support others, build more accepting and inclusive groups, and help people recover, adapt, and grow from rejection rather than becoming defined or being destroyed by it. The love and acceptance of others can do much to heal rejection, but human love can only take us so far. Rejection impacts us at the deepest level, requiring a transcendent solution that includes restoration of the human spirit. Because of this, Charles Solomon is correct in stating that, “Acceptance in Christ is the antidote to rejection” (Solomon, 1982). How does this work? Rejection can cut deep, leaving us feeling unworthy and alone, but in Christ, we are never forsaken. The world may turn its back on us, but Jesus never does. He Himself was “despised and rejected by men” (Isaiah 53:3), so He understands our pain intimately and we will never be rejected by Him.
